This October 21-22, CCMA will offer a virtual victim-offender dialogue facilitation training for the  Office of Dispute Resolution and Family Court Programs for Missouri's 7th Judicial Circuit. This training is free for anyone interested in contracting as a paid facilitator with the Victim-Offender Dialogue program in Clay County, MO.
 
The training is sponsored by the Office of Dispute Resolution and Family Court Programs for Missouri's 7th Judicial Circuit, and is funded by a Division of Youth Services grant. For more information, please contact Director Dr. Teri Hargrave via email or at 816-736-8402.

About this Training
When individuals commit an offense they harm their victims, society, and themselves. Restorative justice is about healing and addressing wrongs that have been committed and repairing the relationships in the community. This training will prepare participants to facilitate dialogues between someone who has committed an offense and the person/people impacted by that offense. 

About Victim-Offender Dialogue
Victim-offender dialogue is a facilitated discussion between someone whose offense has caused harm and those impacted by their actions.

• All parties are prepared in advance to take part in a structured dialogue about the harm caused.
• Those involved have a chance to “tell their story” and ask questions of one another.
• The parties then work together to develop a plan to repair the harm caused and hold the person whose actions caused the harm accountable. This plan may include the payment of restitution, the completion of meaningful community or University service, or other creative options.
• The goal of the plan is both to repair the harm but also to reintegrate those who have caused the harm back into the community. 

About Communication & Conflict Management Associates' Training
CCMA's founders Dr. Charlene Berquist and Heather Blades have been providing training in restorative justice and victim-offender dialogue since 2006.
This training covers basic restorative justice principles and begins to prepare participants to facilitate victim-offender dialogues in juvenile and adult cases. No prior mediation experience is necessary to become a victim-offender dialogue facilitator. 

For More Information
Read more about CCMA's victim-offender dialogue training on our website, or contact us to learn more about offering similar training for your court, educational institution, or community organization at training@ccm-associates.com. 

Join CCMA October 5-9 for highly interactive online mediation training from the comfort of your home or office.

This dynamic event is led by CCMA co-founder and emeritus professor Dr. Charlene Berquist, with her colleague Heather Blades providing Zoom production and technical support and administration. Together the two have over 30 years of experience offering outstanding mediation training. Additionally, the event incorporates guest presentations and mediation role play coaching from over a dozen other professional mediators (with experience in all types of mediation, including civil mediation, family mediation, employment mediation, dependency mediation, and more),

The event is designed to meet the mediation training standards of most states, and it has previously been approved in Missouri, Arkansas, Kansas, Texas, Louisiana, and Arizona. Don't see your state listed, or have questions about training approval? Contact us! 

This past December the CCMA founders Dr. Charlene Berquist and Heather Blades provided a virtual, half-day workshop on communication and conflict management for Missouri Southern State University’s faculty and staff leadership academy.

The session focused on the causes and dynamics of conflict, managing emotions, how culture impacts conflict, and how to take the initiative to intervene early in conflict situations.

Participants in the session indicated they appreciated the insights and knowledge shared with their team. In the words of one attendee, “Being reminded to step back and think about what is on the plate of the other individual involved in conflict was a great reminder. When wrapped up in conflict, sometimes it feels like others are out to ‘get you,’ but it was good to be reminded that they have very full plates too, and I need to consider that.” Another shared: “I really loved how the practice scenarios…were incredibly real and applicable to the conversations I am navigating daily.” Yet another said: “The CDR is a great resource, I love anything they put on!”

For More Information on Customized Trainings and Workshops
​CCMA's customized virtual training and workshops can vary from an hour to several days and focus on a variety of topics related to communication and conflict management. We also have an extensive referral network and love connecting clients with our associates for specialized training and workshop topics. For more information, email training@CCM-Associates.com. 

We (CCMA founders Dr. Charlene Berquist and Heather Blades) have a nearly 20-year track record for offering outstanding mediation training. When we transitioned to providing this training in a virtual instructor-led format in the fall of 2020 for the Center for Dispute Resolution at Missouri State University, we made great efforts to ensure participants would continue to have an outstanding training experience via Zoom.

This past October and November we again offered our mediation training virtually, and our participants agreed it was an engaging, enjoyable, and professionally enriching experience.

Fall 2021 Mediation Trainings Recap
We are experienced with offering highly interactive online training that incorporates lecture, small group activities, discussion, role play, and other dynamic elements in a socially-distanced format. Our fall mediation trainings continued this tradition.

The trainings, led by CCMA founder Dr. Charlene Berquist, with Associate Director Heather Blades providing Zoom production and technical support and administration, incorporated guest presentations and mediation role play coaching from 17 professional mediators (with experience in all types of mediation, including civil mediation, family mediation, employment mediation, dependency mediation, and more).

Our 53 attendees came from across Missouri, as well as from Arkansas, Arizona, Illinois, Maryland, and Texas. They included attorneys, mental health practitioners, social workers, educators, faith leaders, and other professionals, as well as advanced Missouri State students.

Attendees Thrilled with Virtual Training Model
The virtual format of our mediation training makes the event accessible and convenient while still providing an unparalleled learning experience.

Attendee evaluations of this training were outstanding, with participants universally indicating that the trainers were knowledgeable, that the training was well organized, that the structure and format were engaging, that participation and interaction were encouraged, and that the training met or exceeded their expectations.

In the words of a few of our participants:

• Absolutely wonderful training!! I’ve completed a lot of different classes over the years, and this one may be my favorite one so far due to the organization, high quality of instruction, role plays, and incredible support throughout.
• I was really impressed with all the training methods and tools used, and how seamlessly everyone...worked together to create such a wonderful learning experience for each of us.
• Each part of the 5 days of training was insightful and served a purpose. My personal favorite parts were the first 3 days of training with all the incredible content and instruction given around foundations in mediation, communication styles, conflict management approaches, etc.
• I was concerned about how we were going to be able to interact since it was via Zoom, but it was done so wonderfully it felt like we were in the room together.
• There wasn’t a single coach I had that I did not learn something from. I appreciated the variety in background and experience.
• I learned so much from you all! I think this training is just the tip of the iceberg and there is so much more to learn.
• Overall, I really, really enjoyed this experience. I didn’t quite know what to expect coming into it, but was excited to find that it more than exceeding any expectations and I loved the learning experience very much.
• I think that participation and interaction were very much encouraged. Being put into roles and mediations this way… forced me out of my comfort zone, but in a very good way.
• I am honestly blown away at how much I’m taking away from the training. I feel prepared to do whatever I want to do next, and have the knowledge of how to do it.
• While I have a long way to go, I do feel very prepared to begin my career in mediation. I also feel very supported and that there is a safety net should I ever need help.

For More Information on Mediation Training
For more information on CCMA's mediation training offerings, check our training page or join our mailing list. Or, to learn about customized mediation or conflict management training, contact CCMA founder Dr. Charlene Berquist at CharleneBerquist@CCM-Associates.com.

The holidays are a chance to relax, reconnect with family, and celebrate together. But for many , this fun and festive time is also fraught with the potential for awkward, uncomfortable, and even upsetting interactions with loved ones. But fear not! The tips below will help you mentally prepare so you can make the most of your time with family. Additionally, they will equip you with strategies to manage any challenging conversations or conflicts that may arise as you spend quality time with your nearest and dearest.

Before you get together with family:

• Be grateful. Take time to think deliberately about all you have to be thankful for. Make a list of each family member you’ll spend time with and write down 1-2 things you appreciate about each person. Gratitude has a positive impact on your emotional health, reduces stress, and will create a different mindset and context for your family holiday. By being mindful of what you like and appreciate about each person you are more likely to “see” those things in your interactions with them.
• Prepare yourself. Be prepared for some conflict, and approach time with family with a sense of realism. Prepare yourself to stay neutral and avoid taking comments personally. You know who in your family may rub you the wrong way or try to start an argument. Consider making a plan in advance for how you will handle these interactions so you aren’t reacting out of stress or anger in the moment.
• Communicate in advance. Let your family know about your plans and expectations for how you will spend your time. For example, your sister may assume you’ll want to spend ALL your time with her, while you plan to visit other friends during your time off. Letting her know early what your plans are will help avoid hurt feelings and enable you to set expectations and establish boundaries in advance of your visit.
• Be realistic about change. As families grow and time passes, traditions and rituals often change. Accept that you may have to let some go, and put your energy into finding new ways to celebrate together that fit with your and your family’s life circumstances.

While you are with your family:

• Keep conversations neutral. Avoid discussing divisive and personal issues, like religion or politics, or when you will get married or graduate (if these are sensitive issues), or other issues that tend to cause conflict. If a family member tries to start a conversation that will probably become an argument, change the subject or find a reason to leave the room. Remember – it takes two to tango! By adjusting your response to the other person, you can alter the dynamic of the relationship.
• Choose not to respond. If you are feeling attacked or criticized by something a family member says to you, ask yourself “Do I NEED to respond?” When we respond out of anger or defensiveness, the situation is likely to escalate. Surprisingly often we can end the drama simply by not responding, or by saying “OK” and moving on. No response IS a response, and a powerful one. 
• Accept the reality of who people really are. If you are interacting with difficult family members, don’t attempt to change them. You will only get into a power struggle that causes defensiveness and invites criticism. Remember, there is only one person you can control or change: yourself! This can feel frustrating, but when we display and model positive behaviors, others are more likely to follow our lead. And even if their negative behaviors continue, at least you can look back on your choices and feel proud that you acted calmly and maturely.
• Be curious. Sharing holidays with family who hold different values and beliefs can be stressful! If you decide to engage in discussions about topics on which you disagree, instead of trying to defend your point of view or persuade the other person to your way of thinking, approach your family members with curiosity. Actively listen and seek to understand their point of view. Being genuinely curious about their beliefs, values, hopes, and fears helps to open up a deeper dialogue. When you get to the core of what’s important to your family member, it often allows a richer understanding that may not have seemed possible had you chosen to “debate” them.
• Know your limits. It is OK to limit the time you spend around family. Set up realistic limits and stick to them. Plan time or activities that allow you to take care of yourself – this may mean taking a walk, enjoying a good book for an hour, listening to a podcast, soaking in a warm bath, or other activities that take you away from the holiday stress and help you recharge. In the words of Audre Lorde, “Self care is not self-indulgence, it is self-preservation.”
• Forget about perfection. A wise person once said, “The key to happiness is low expectations.” Too often we strive for perfection and set ourselves up for failure. Instead of focusing on what isn’t perfect about your holiday, make a point to recognize everything you have to appreciate.
• Help others feel recognized and appreciated. Sometimes in our own stress we forget that the holidays are stressful for others as well. Help your family members feel more relaxed, loved, and valued by making a point to tell them something you appreciate about them, or by clearly recognizing something they have done well over the past year. We too often assume others know what we are thinking or how we feel about them. Just a few words of love, support, appreciation, or encouragement can mean a lot to our loved ones.

We hope these tips help you as you prepare for holidays! 

CCMA founders Dr. Charlene Berquist and Heather Blades offered an interactive virtual workshop on how to give feedback for improvement this past October for Missouri State faculty, staff, and administrators.

This workshop, offered as part of the Center for Dispute Resolution's campus conflict workshop series, provided a fun skill-building session for nearly 30 participants. Read on to learn more about the session.
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Feedback For Improvement
Constructive feedback can be a gift, but often the feedback we give is ineffective. This is particularly true when it comes to giving feedback on areas where improvement is needed, whether this feedback comes in the form of yearly reviews, ADPs, grading, etc. Others may dismiss our feedback, become angry and defensive, or feel frustrated and unsure of how to improve their performance. As a result relationships are damaged and valuable opportunities for growth are lost.

Giving effective feedback is an art, and this session helped participants learn how to regularly provide constructive feedback that reinforces desired behaviors in others and identifies ways people can make positive changes.

In this interactive online session, participants had the opportunity to:

• Investigate the characteristics of effective and ineffective feedback.
• Learn how our traditional approaches to giving feedback are often ineffective and even destructive.
• Explore how people respond to feedback and why ineffective feedback is often rejected and fails to promote behavior change.
• Practice giving effective feedback for improvement.
• Examine their current approaches to giving feedback and make concrete plans for how to provide others with effective feedback for improvement.

Learn More
For more information on customized workshops like this one, email training@CCM-Associates.com. 

This August 26-27 CCMA founders Dr. Charlene Berquist and Heather Blades will provide virtual training in facilitating Family Group Conferences (FGCs) for the Office of Dispute Resolution and Family Court Programs in the 7th Judicial Circuit. The training, offered through the Center for Dispute Resolution at Missouri State University, will explore how FGCs can be used by schools, social service agencies, and others to benefit youth and families. The training will prepare participants to facilitate FGCs for families referred by the Clay County Family Court.

 What Are Family Group Conferences (FGCs)
FGCs are family-led meetings in which family, friends, and other supportive people in the lives of a family or youth come together to make a plan to address difficulties or challenges faced by the family or youth. The FGC is supported by an independent facilitator, who helps the family prepare for the FGC and guides the conference. In an FGC, families are empowered to express needs, verbalize concerns, identify resources, and create their own robust plans to support the family or youth in managing challenges, which may include truancy, behavioral issues, academic concerns, parent engagement, etc. Outside agencies (such as the school system, juvenile office, etc.) may provide information on things that the family should address in their plan, but the family decides the best way to support the family or youth in achieving their goals. 

About the FREE Training
This training is free for participants who are interested in co-facilitating FGCs for families referred by the Clay County Family Court. For more information on Clay County’s FGC program and facilitation compensation, please email teri.hargrave@courts.mo.gov. To register for this training visit https://bit.ly/36FNIpa.

This training will cover the following:

• the philosophical underpinning of the FGC model;
• the goals and benefits of the process;
• appropriate behaviors, role, and responsibilities for a facilitator;
• strategies for building strong family support networks;
• how to prepare family members for an FGC; and
• how to effectively coordinate an FGC meeting.

CCMA's Founders and Family Group Conferencing
Family Group Conferencing is a flexible process that can be used in a variety of contexts, and Dr. Berquist and Ms. Blades have a long history of providing FGC services and training.

In the Regional Partnership Grant (RPG) program, the Berquist and Blades trained and coordinated volunteer facilitators who provided FGC services for parents receiving substance abuse treatment through Alternative Opportunities, Inc.. In these FGCs, families developed plans to support the parent(s) in recovery and ensure the safety and well-being of the children involved.

As part of a Title II grant, the CDR (led by Berquist and Blades) prepared and supported volunteer facilitators who provided FGCs for at-risk girls and young women referred by the Greene County Juvenile Office. In these FGCs, families focused on developing plans to address each youth’s behavior or difficulties (including juvenile offending, status offenses, truancy, relationship issues, etc.). The FGCs also addressed concerns identified by the Juvenile Office, school, family, and youth.

In addition to providing Family Group Conferencing as a part of its community programming, Berquist and Blades have an extensive history of offering customized training in facilitating FGCs for child welfare organizations, community groups, and others. Past training clients have included Great Circle, the Omaha Tribe Peacemaker Project, the Healthy Families Taskforce, and the Office of Dispute Resolution and Family Court Programs in the 7th Judicial Circuit.

For more information on training in Family Group Conferencing check out this webpage or email training@CCM-Associates.com. 

On February 9, 2019, CCMA founders Dr. Char Berquist and Heather Blades led a victim-offender dialogue training for Missouri State students and area community members. This training, offered by the Center for Dispute Resolution (CDR) at Missouri State University, prepared participants to volunteer with the CDR facilitating  dialogues between someone whose offense has caused harm and those impacted by their actions.

This process will be applied to two types of case referrals: juvenile offenders referred by the Greene County Juvenile Office, and Missouri State students who have violated the University Code of Student Rights and Responsibilities.

About Victim-Offender Dialogue
Victim-offender dialogue is a facilitated discussion between someone who has committed an offense and the person/people impacted by that offense.

• All parties are prepared in advance to take part in a structured dialogue about the harm caused.
• Those involved have a chance to “tell their story” and ask questions of one another.
• The parties then work together to develop a plan to repair the harm caused and hold the person whose actions caused the harm accountable. This plan may include the payment of restitution, the completion of meaningful community or University service, or other creative options.
• The goal of the plan is both to repair the harm but also to reintegrate students who have committed conduct violations into the University community.

About the Training
​This training covered basic restorative justice principles and prepared participants to volunteer to facilitate Victim-Offender Dialogues in two types of cases: with juvenile offenders referred by the Greene County Juvenile Office, and with Missouri State students who have violated the University Code of Student Rights and Responsibilities.

No prior mediation experience is necessary to become a volunteer victim-offender dialogue facilitator.  Dr. Berquist and Ms. Blades have been providing outstanding training in Victim-Offender Dialogue Facilitation (Victim-Offender Mediation)for 1 5+ years, and are also experienced in providing program development support. 

For more information on Victim-Offender Dialogue Training, email training@ccm-associates.com.